Sometimes in life, you are thrown a curve ball. It can come in the form of an unexpected opportunity, an event that changes the course of your life in some way or an unexpected sadness or disappointment that you need to recover from. The strength of character of a person is reflected in how they react to those curve balls. What decisions do people make to keep their life moving forward in a way that brings them satisfaction and allows them to develop skills or attributes that are valuable to them in the future? And how do they make those decisions so that they don’t regret them later on?
My approach is to look at every event in my life as one from which I can learn. Whether the event is a positive one or a negative one to me personally, I know there is something that I can learn from it. People looking at my life might say “she’s had a charmed life!”, and I admit that I have been blessed to have been raised in a family full of love and laughter and to have created my own family sharing those same values. That gets you off to a great start.
However, there have been many opportunities and challenges presented along the way where I have had to decide “what next?”. I have always tried to adopt the attitude of breaking major decisions – whether they be exciting opportunities or challenging dilemmas – down to smaller decisions. Smaller decisions seem to offer the right path to me more easily! In all cases though, I look at what is the best that might happen if I take this decision and what is the worst.
Deciding to start a new business is one very major decision that many people might never think to make – me included! When that opportunity was presented to me, I considered what was the best that might happen and what was the worst. The worst was not that bad and the best was very exciting! So then it was a matter of breaking “starting a business” down into little decisions. (a) Decide to research an area first and then after that is done (b) decide if it is worth investing some money in it to take it to the next step and then again after some time (c) consider who might be able to help us do x, y and z and then (d)….you get the picture. As you move forward with each step in your decision making, always ask “what is the best that could happen and what is the worst?”
Have confidence in yourself and always trust your instinct. Instinct is not fluffy decision making – it is the ability to learn from your all past experiences, distilling that information to make the best decision for you at this time. Consciously consider every opportunity that presents itself, learn from experiences that don’t quite go as you planned and reach out to others for assistance when you need to. Step up to the plate in making your life what you want it to be.
You won’t be disappointed.